Wording There is a saying that goes "Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it!" To most people, that is an encouragement, but to a Pagan, we realise that it is actually a warning. Be careful how you word your spells, and be careful what you ask for, because sometimes what we ask for, and what we really want are two separate things. For example, if you need money for something, and you do a spell to "bring me money". That sounds like a reasonable request, doesn't it? How much money do you want?….. where do you want it to come from? You may find a dollar in the street….. money came to you….. perhaps not what you had in mind… but you got what you asked for! If you win the lotto, and receive money, that is great - and usually what people mean, however if your aunt died and left money to you in her will, you would still be receiving money, but to the sacrifice of something else. Be careful how you word your requests. Another problem is when you ask for "love", "Happiness", "Lots of money", "wealth" or something like that. These have not been given a value. How much money do you want? What do you define as "lots"? What type of love do you want? …. Brotherly Love? love of a partner? .. a pet to love? What do You define as “happy”? what makes some people happy doesn't make others happy. I believe that the Goddess and God know what it is we want, but I think they chose not to grant it if we don't ask properly, just to teach you to ask properly next time! A lesson not to be lazy next time and ask for what you want. So when you are asking for something, make sure you are as specific as you can be, even if that means writing down every aspect of the wish. That way, the Goddess and God (and yourself) know exactly what you desire, and you stand a better chance of getting it. Time
Intent -
Putting the energy into it
Spells for
the wrong thing
Try to look for the problem, and do the spell for that… sometimes the problem manifests a symptom, and if we do a spell for the symptom, it won't help (or maybe won't even work)… because the problem is still there. Another example of this…. I was once asked to write a spell for a couple to strengthen their relationship. After talking with them, I found out that one of them had been hurt in love before and was very closed off.. not trusting the other person, not wanting to let herself love or be loved. The other person was loyal and loved his partner, but the one-sidedness of the relationship was making him unhappy. What was needed was not a spell to strengthen the relationship…. The relationship not working was a symptom of the female partner not being fully healed from a previous relationship. She was trying to protect herself from being hurt again, which made it hard for the other partner to prove that he wouldn't hurt her. What they needed was a spell to help heal her emotional wounds and help her to open up to love and trust. Not the
right thing for you (at that point in time)
For example, I was asked for a spell for Love. To find a lover for a person. But through talking to them, they were (like the lady in the example above) still hurting from a previous relationship. So to bring them a partner before they had healed properly would create a situation like the one above. What she needed was to heal first, then if needed, do a spell to find a lover. She worked on healing the emotional scars, and a partner came to her….. all that was needed is for her to be ready for him when he came, so when she was ready, he came without having to do a spell to find him. By waiting until she was ready, the relationship won't have the same problems it would have if they had started
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